ØRomantic love – passionate love that
includes sexual desire, physical attraction, and elation
vWe
tend to idealize our romantic partner
ØCompanionate love (conjugal love) – deep
affection, attachment, intimacy, trust, loyalty
Love Styles
ØPragma: "emphasizes the practical element in
human relationships, particularly in marriages.
Pragmatics love involves rational assessment of a potential partner's
assets and liabilities" (Lamanna & Riedmann, 1991, p. 92).
ØAgape: altruistic love. It "emphasizes unselfish concern for the
beloved's needs even when that means some personal sacrifice. . . . [it also]
emphasizes nurturing others with little conscious desire for return other than
the intrinsic satisfaction of having loved and cared for someone else"
(Lamanna & Riedmann, 1991, p. 92-93).
ØLudus (sounds like "lewd-us"): emphasizes the recreational aspect of
sexuality and sensual pleasures. It may
be part of a more committed relationship based on other loves styles, too.
ØMania:
based on strong sexual attraction and emotional intensity, but a manic
partner is extremely jealous, moody, and her/his need for attention is
insatiable.
ØManic and ludic – poorer psychological
health
ØStorge and eros – higher psychological
health
ØGender Differences:
vMen
– more socially acceptable to have eros or ludus styles; less to have agape;
more likely to have ludic style
vWomen
– more socially acceptable to have agape; less to have ludus; more likely to
have pragmatic style
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